Sorry,
This
message to you all will be long, but it will come from the bottom of
my heart.
This
isn't dedicated to any one special, but to all of you. If you feel
like my words hit you in the chest – so be it. I'm all right with
being a bitch, as long as I feel like I've said what I believe is the
truth.
I'm
tired of this. I'm tired of seeing lots of pictures with “food”,
hearing words of praise when in the end the winner almost always is
Ana. I've the brutal opinion that you can't defeat an eating disorder
trying. You have to go all in, with all your might. You have to leave
those low-fat products behind. You have to meet your fears, it's the
only way to defeat them. You have to take the anxiety after every
proper meal you eat, avoiding it will just make the process of
recovery longer. I've been there, believe me. After more than two
years of sickness, I've come to the conclusion that stamping around
at the same place isn't for me. Taking one step forward (I ate!) and
one step backwards (what I ate was nothing) is, in my opinion, Ana
winning.
I
know you can't defeat an eating disorder in one day, not even a week
or a month. But I also know that fighting against Ana and still
follow her is just contra productive. For one year and a half I've
been stuck in-between. I've managed to eat regularly, to eat candy
and ice-cream sometimes, to eat in restaurants and to travel alone.
But I've only managed those fears because I knew that when I come
home, I could go back to old, Ana-friendly habits. I could eat my
food in my way, sometimes challenging myself, but in the end Ana's
winning by avoiding those foods that are difficult to eat. It's like
giving a heroin addict some heroin every second time she asks for it.
I
can't see this any more. I can't stand seeing beautiful young girls
destroying themselves and throwing away their adolescence.
I'm done with this. I want to leave this world behind, to move
forward in my life and fill my days with other things than food,
weight and eating disorders.
I
feel so bad seeing your thoughts and pictures. I think I know what
your parents go through, or almost. I don't love you, I don't even
know you, but feeling totally powerless and knowing that I can't help
you destroys me. It destroys me more than eating my worst fearfoods.
It's inside your head. It's all inside your head, yours and yours
only. It's you that can make the change happen, unfortunately you
won't wake up tomorrow morning feeling that this is the day
everything changes. You have to decide it yourself, you have to
decide it NOW and do it. It will hurt. It won't be easy. Life isn't
easy. But it will be worth it, in the end.
I've
always been very drastic. It's all or nothing. So being stuck in that
in-between, where Ana and I live side by side and even though I
sometimes hit her in the face – it isn't enough. It isn't enough
for me to recover, I can't live my life to the fullest with a demon whispering
in my ear what's good and what's bad. Perhaps you can live like that.
Perhaps you can live, “trying” to recover, perhaps even
recovering, but still with the eating disorder there. But I can't. I
can't live with it! My days are just filled with food and school. I
don't have space for anything else. I don't have time for hobbies nor
do I have time for friends friends. For a girl with every possibility
in the world, that's not a life. I'll turn eighteen this year, I
won't be a child any more. I don't want to look like a child nor do I
want to be mistaken to be twelve. Therefore, I have to meet my fears,
my angst, my weaknesses and make something good come out of them.
You
know, if you are underweight it's not healthy if you have eaten a
low-fat yoghurt, nor is it healthy for you to eat an apple for snack.
Actually, you should be eating full-fat products and loads of energy
dense products. If you were perfectly fine in your head, you would
right now sit with a box of butter and eat it with a spoon. That
would be healthy for you. I'm underweight, but do I eat pure butter
with a spoon? No. I don't. Because I'm sick. I begin to calculate –
how many apples to I get from this? I begin to think, to see myself
as fat if I eat it. I begin to calculate how many calories I would
get from that and I fear them. This will change. Keeping an
underweight is the same as dieting. Keeping an underweight when we do
have access to food, is just insane. I'm sick. I don't know that have
gotten into me, but this is not the person I want to be in the future
and it's not the person for any one to be.
Healthy
eating is eating what your body needs. If you need to gain weight,
healthy for you is food that makes you gain. If you need to lose, if
you are dangerously obese, healthy for you is to eat food that makes
you lose some pounds. Ice-cream is healthy for those who need to
gain, cucumber isn't.
I'll
unfollow a bunch of you. Feel free to unfollow me if you want to.
It's not that I hate you nor do I think you aren't worth my time.
It's just that, that I feel I need to leave this world of eating
disorders behind me. I need to move forward. I still have plenty of
work to do. I'm not perfect. I do sometimes follow Ana. But I feel
this is one very important step for me in recovery – let the
obsession with eating disorders go.
I
wish you all the very, very best
Meet
your fears,
Tua
doh! jag hade velat haft det på svenska;)
SvaraRaderaDör så bra skrivet. Håller med till tusen, det är ju inte så vi är skapta att leva. Det är ju inte normalt att räkna, jämföra och förbränna. Mat är ju något som är lika naturligt som sömn, men tyvärr blir det så fel för vissa. Ser så många omkring mig som är fast i det helvete jag var fast i och det är så hemskt, precis som du skriver att inte kunna göra något åt det. Tack för en fin blogg<3
SvaraRaderasjukt bra skrivit!!
SvaraRadera<3
SvaraRaderagrymt bra!
SvaraRaderadu är fantastisk, gud vad välskrivet. genomtänkt, rätt på alla fronter. (älskar att det är skrivet på engelska också hih)och jag håller med, jag håller på och "unfollowea" en hel del personer, då o då. mår så fruktansvärt dåligt av dessa, men som ändå säger att de är "in recovery", männskors matbilder..hjärtat blir alldeles söndertrasat, sakta men säkert o de är ju INTE mitt mål precis. egoistiskt kanske, men det finns ju inget man själv kan göra, och då är det bättre att rå om sig själv ist; till 1000000%. <3
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